You talk about peace. Is that a feeling you can achieve when you’re alone?

I ask because this might be the exact right time to set up a new home on your own. You want to leave your current partner, despite his kindness and support, because he isn’t great for you. That’s OK.

But do you have to start a big relationship with another person so soon? Can the connection remain as is? You could spend time seeking counseling, dealing with your family legal issues, and finding stability.

This new man is offering friendship, I assume. Why not leave it at that while you build a different kind of life?

If you feel you must pursue this new romance, I hope you give yourself a moment to breathe, at the very least. I also hope you find support (therapy, group conversations, etc.) outside of your home. There are services for parents involved in this kind of trauma. Ask your legal representatives – or the courts – for options.

– Meredith

Readers? Thoughts on making relationship decisions during traumatic moments? Should this LW maintain status quo until life is more calm?

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