Hi Meredith,

About a month and a half ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. I’m 23 and he’s 21. I thought we were going to move in together after he graduated college. We always talked about getting married and having kids. To say I was obsessed with him would be an understatement; I was absolutely head over heels. I’d say our big problem was that I gave SO much to the relationship that he kind of stopped making the effort he always used to make, which would cause me to get angry and feel like a burden. When he broke up with me, he told me he just didn’t want to be responsible for another person besides himself and that he wanted to spend the rest of his senior year doing whatever he wanted, going to parties, and meeting new girls. He broke my heart. We exchanged stuff when he returned home for Thanksgiving and ended up sleeping together a few times. I know, I’m an idiot.

I still love him and he still loves me. I practically begged him to give it a chance again and he just said he couldn’t decide if it was something he wanted or not. I know I deserve much better, especially after how great of a girlfriend I was to him. I just can’t get over him. I know it’s unrealistic to assume I’d already be over him but I am just so sad all of the time. I keep wondering how he could do this to us and why he wouldn’t want to try again. Wouldn’t you? If you knew someone was willing to do anything to make it work? We talk here and there, but I know my best route is to cut off contact with him. I guess my question is: What do I do? How do I move on? All I do is keep thinking of our good memories, and I keep feeling like I’ll never find another person like him.

– Brokenhearted