I have been in a relationship with a woman for three years and we’ve lived together. I’ve made some mistakes during this time, and she’s forgiven me. She also had a few problems herself (weight gain, not feeling sexy, etc.). I assure you I always tried my best to keep her happy with herself and in our relationship. And we were very happy together.

In the past year, she got accepted to travel abroad, and as soon as she got that news, we decided to figure out what was going to happen between us. Within the last two months before she left, we broke up once because we thought it would be easier for her to leave. The next day we got back together because it just didn’t feel right.

Recently, we had a small window where she would be home to see family. I was excited to see her. Before she went abroad again, though, she told me she wasn’t happy with me anymore. She doesn’t know what happened, but she fell out of love with me. She needs a break. Shocked and confused, I broke down crying and asked her to give it another shot. I tried reminding her how we felt when we tried breaking up the first time. I thought, “Maybe she’s just stressed out,” or “Maybe she fears I’ll do her wrong again like I did in the past.” But she was convinced that this was for the best. She said she was sorry for ending it so abruptly and terribly.

She’s gone again but recently said she’s confused and doesn’t know what she wants and needs. I am in the saddest stage of our breakup (break? separation? relationship?). Do you think she will come back to me? How can I win her back? How can I learn to live for myself again? I feel so lost without her. We’ve done long-distance before, but not on different sides of the world.

– Is it over?